I've been reading Dr. Helen on the topic, and one of her commenters gets to the point:
dittos to what tmink said.
I don't know about punishment, but the dude could sure use some anger management counselling or parenting classes or something. If he's this over the top about an eleven year old not answering her phone, he's going to stroke out when she's fifteen. (In my experience, most obnoxious age of them all.)